I live with a man that is an alcoholic and is a very carnal person. I been reading about problems of the alcoholics and there are many problems that arise with being an alcoholic besides health problems. he lie’s, he’s very carnal….now my question is how do I fit into this situation why do I continue to be with him, I feel like I am with him for a reason, I believe there is a reason for everything that we do. how does Jesus feel about my situation? am I doing the right thing, what way can I help this person who I care and feel sorry for. I worry about my salvation everyday and I fight with good and bad thoughts of staying or leaving. please help me.

Answer:

There are several things to consider and I suggest you enter into some kind of Christian counseling. This is not a thing to be taken lightly. First and foremost you must consider if you are in danger. I’m not talking about emotional abuse although that can lead to physical abuse. If your spouse is physically abusing you that is a matter for the law and you should get out as soon as you can. Jesus does not ask people to subject themselves to physical harm in marriage. If there is no physical danger first seek counseling. Even if it just for yourself.

The Bible does speak about being married to someone who does not believe. 1 Corinthians 7:

1 Corinthians 7:10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

17 Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.

If your husband is willing to stay with you then you should not leave him. However, if he chooses to leave you then you have no choice. Other forms of danger that you should consider have to do with physical abuse of your children, sexually transmitted disease and behavior that may result in harm i.e. he insists that you ride with him while he drives drunk. You must not put yourself in harms way in order to fulfill your Christian duty as a wife.

Again, I close with this: Seek professional help. A website is no place to receive personal advice on these kinds of matters. We can tell you what the Bible says but you need to have counsel from someone that can help you evaluate the situation on a personal level.

Our prayers are with you.

Question:I would like to know all bible verses referring to the subject of “drink”. Fernented drink specifically. Both pro and con. Old testament and new. The issue is under much discussion in my community.

Answer:You can find all 367 verses relating to Drink by clicking the link below.http://www.biblegateway.com/keyword/?search=drink&searchtype=all&version1=49&spanbegin=1&spanend=73You can find all 240 verses on Wine by clicking the link belowhttp://www.biblegateway.com/keyword/?search=wine&searchtype=all&version1=49&spanbegin=1&spanend=73These verses are in NAS version but you can look them up in whatever version you use. I will answer your question directly. First, I am assuming you are referring to the myth espoused by many that the Wine in the Bible was non alcoholic or that drinking at all is a sine.For brevity’s sake we will cover only the New Testament verse that is most often quoted against drinking. Ephesians 5:18 And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit,Here is King James if you prefer: And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit,The keyword is “drunk.” Drunk does not have a legal basis at the time the Bible was written. For example, one cannot say at a blood alcohol level of .10 you are legally drunk according to the Bible. You can only determine what drunk is by seeing the actions of the person. In my humble opinion, someone is drunk once they act counter to the Scriptures. If you are treating people badly, breaking the law or making a fool of yourself I believe you are drunk.On the other hand, if you have a few drinks with friends, do not treat people badly, do not break the law or make a fool of yourself you are not drunk in the sense of Ephesians 5:18.The word translated to wine is “something pressed” in most passages I am familiar with. Some have argued that this is a grape juice and not an alcoholic wine. Let’s look at the first miracle of Jesus.John 2:10 and said to him, “Every man serves the good wine first, and when the people have drunk freely, then he serves the poorer wine; but you have kept the good wine until now.”In this particular verse is the evidence that the wine did contain alcohol. If it were grape juice then people would still notice the difference between good and poor wine. Having had experience with drinking in my youth I can testify that after you have a certain amount to drink you can barely tell the difference between good and poor wine.If these two main arguments are not good enough there is always Church history. When did the prohibition of alcohol begin? Any student of history will tell you it started right here in America via the Fundamentalist and Pentecostal movements. Here is a good article link to Christianity Today. http://www.christianitytoday.com/history/features/ask/2002/jul12.htmlConclusion:The Bible does not say drinking is a sin or else you may see the commandment “Though shalt not consume alcohol.” It simply says “don’t get drunk.” Jesus would never have turned water into wine if it were sinful. History shows that alcohol has only become a topic of discussion in the North American Churches in the past 120 years. Since the issue of alcohol is localized to the Americas one must ask if Christianity is only correct from the American perspective.I do hope this helps to answer your question.